- In Genesis we read where God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18. There are two points here:
- It is not good for man to be alone.
- We men need helpers who are suitable for us.
Now comes the hard part. A suitable helper! Men and women fulfill each other’s needs perfectly. God designed it that way. Mentally, spiritually, intellectually, sexually and socially. Men need women. Women need men. The problem comes when we place ourselves outside of the role and position which God created for us. Remember when Lucifer moved outside of the position God created for him? Look how much damage and trouble he has caused us and the whole universe.
Choosing a “suitable helper” is no easy task in our world of sin. The Bible lays down what a “suitable helper” is. She must be pure, honest, kind, generous, obedient, respectful, able to raise children with patience and keep a house clean, tidy, neat and lovely for her family. Doesn’t gossip, stays at home with the children and brings a good reputation to the family.
If you want to get to heaven, you must play by heaven’s rules. There is no such thing as “paper” in heaven. So how do you know when you are married? By using the standard God has laid down! How was it in the beginning? “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24. One flesh? Be united? That is the key concept. When are you married? When you become “united”. When is that? At the time of intercourse.
This is why the Ten Commandments only deals with “adultery”. The moment you have intercourse with another person you are “married” in the eyes of God to that person. That is simple. Remember, God keeps everything simple. It is man who muckies everything up. Do we have more proof of this “marriage” concept? Yep. “Cain lay with his wife.” Genesis 4:17. No government back then to issue “paper”. They were married simply because he lay with her. “Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah.” Genesis 24:67. Do I need to tell you what they were doing in that tent?
“If a man happens to meet in a town a virgin pledged to be married and he sleeps with her, you shall take both of them to the gate of that town and stone them to death—the girl because she was in a town and did not scream for help, and the man because he violated another man’s wife. You must purge the evil from among you.” Deuteronomy 22:23, 24. Jesus said the same thing in the New Testament. “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28.
Also, keep in mind that many wives or polygamy was only “allowed” because of sin. Divorce and polygamy were not part of God’s original plan for our best good. But because of sin, God has had to make a few adjustments for our stupidity. That doesn’t break the Ten Commandments. Sin is the breaking of the Ten Commandments.
Since some of you may have many wives in the sight of God, you may be thinking to yourself that it will be better off for you to stay in prison than to support all those “wives” you have been accumulating. That may be. On the other hand, there is a way out. You see, Jesus said, “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.” Matthew 19:9.
To understand, we really need to go back and read what brought all that about. It was the Sadducees who came and asked Jesus, “At the RESURRECTION, whose wife will she be…?”. Matthew 22:28. The Sadducees did not believe in angels, in a resurrection, or eternal life. They believed that this life was all we got. Therefore, get it all now, and they did. No matter how you got it, get it now because this was all you were going to get. That is why they were Sad – U – See (Sadducees). They were very sad since they did not believe in a life after this one.
The fact is, my dear brothers and sisters, at the resurrection we are going to be very busy and there won’t be much time or interest in marriage. First, we have to get off this planet. After we are resurrected, we will take a seven day trip back to heaven. Then, there is that little matter of judgment. There will be a thousand years of looking over the books and getting over our sadness for those who aren’t there. A lot will be happening “at the resurrection”.
“The resurrection” is a one thousand year process. The first resurrection of the righteous is only the beginning of the process. One thousand years later there will be the second resurrection of the wicked (Revelation 20:5, 6). That whole process is “The Resurrection” time. There will be no marriages taking place during that time.
However, after that time, everything will be made new. “Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away.” Revelation 21:1. “The old order of things has passed away.” Revelation 21:4. Jesus says, “I am making everything new.” Revelation 21:5.
But you say, Jesus said we would be like the angels. Yes, but does the Bible say anywhere about the angels being married or single? No! To understand what Jesus meant, read Luke 20:36. Jesus is only talking about living eternally like the angels. Get the point? It will all be made new again, just as it was “new” at the beginning of the world when God created it new to begin with. And what did God create in that new earth? He created marriage and the Sabbath. Both of those were given to us from God. Both were given to last eternally. Both were given when the earth was made new in the beginning. Both were given before sin. Both will be given again when everything will be made new again. You will live eternally, just like the angels who obey God.
And even in the New Testament Jesus confirmed the eternalness of marriage. Listen to Him as He defends marriage: “Jesus replied, ‘But at the beginning of creation God “made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.’” So why would God separate them in heaven? He won’t.
That is good news my brothers and sisters. Do not fear, God has a far better plan for you than you could ever imagine. Do not fret or worry. Just be obedient to Jesus and He will take care of everything you have ever dreamed about. The new world will be just like it was before sin entered. It was before sin entered the world that Jesus told Adam and Eve, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.” Genesis 1:28. So it will be after sin. We will be fruitful and increase in number. We will fill the earth. That is what God created us for, to fill it and to have communion with Him. What sweet fellowship. What a wonderful God.